Sugar-daddy scams are an online phenomenon. They often involve significant financial loss for the victim, which can be traumatic and cause difficulties in their personal life. Learning how to overcome the trauma and struggle of a sugar-daddy scam is important.
As more and more people become financially compromised across the world due to the pandemic, increasing wage disparity, and other things, more people are turning to sugar daddy scams as a method of making money.
What Is a Sugar-Daddy Scam?
There are several types of sugar-daddy scams and it’s important to differentiate between them.
Advance-fee fraud, which is also referred to as the ‘Nigerian prince’ scam, is also sometimes referred to as a sugar-daddy scam. This is an online scam in which people convince others to send them money in exchange for promised goods. They may offer a stark increase in the initial investment, offer a small amount of money as a placeholder, or do other things to convince the victim of their authenticity.
Sugar-daddy scams which specifically involve the use of the word ‘sugar daddy’ are similar. In some cases, women are approached by men on social media or dating apps.
The man identifies himself as a sugar-daddy: someone who pays young ‘sugar babies’ for dates and companionship. In turn, he offers to pay for things.
One example of a sugar daddy scam gone awry occurred in Massachusetts. The sugar daddy offered to send a woman $1,500 in exchange for several dates. The woman was shocked that the money appeared in her account, and when the sugar daddy asked for her to send $500 of it back for family concerns, she obliged.
A few days later she found that the $1,500 that had been deposited had been withdrawn and the check had bounced. Now, she was out $500.
Sugar-Daddy Scams and Trauma
Falling victim to a sugar-daddy scam can be a traumatic event. While the initial sequence of events might not seem extremely traumatizing, the resulting financial difficulties certainly can be.
Sugar daddy scams also cause a serious violation of trust. Not only might victims become wary of online communications, they may become wary of individuals offering them gifts or financial support.
The related financial struggles can also cause trauma.
Most people who fall victim to sugar-daddy scams are already financially vulnerable. They respond to the scams in hopes that they are able to help remedy their financial situation. When they take a further financial hit, they are often overwhelmed.
Their already-sensitive financial situation may then become unmanageable. They may be unable to afford food for the family or afford transportation to and from work. This, coupled with embarrassment, shame, and mistrust, can create a difficult environment for these victims.
Overcoming Sugar-Daddy Scams With Somato-Emotional Repatterning and NLP
There are many methods of overcoming trauma. Two of the most effective holistic methods for managing trauma are known as Somato-Emotional Repatterning and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP).
Both of these modes of treatment allow for clients to receive a complete and effective reworking of their trauma. Rather than simple talk therapy, which focuses on cognitively changing beliefs and behaviors, these holistic treatments uproot the trauma at its source and help to eliminate it completely.
Somato-emotional repatterning operates on the understanding that trauma is stored somatically, that is, in the body.
Psychotherapy addresses one component of trauma: the cognitive/emotional component. While this is certainly important, it doesn’t address the whole picture. Trauma is also stored in the body and needs to be addressed.
Somato-emotional repatterning works by addressing the mental, physical, and emotional aspects of trauma. This form of therapy helps to uproot trauma and provide a positive framework in which the client can move forward in their life.
NLP is a fascinating and effective mode of therapy that involves communicating directly with the subconscious of the individual.
Many of our emotional cues, beliefs, and behavioral responses are stored in our subconscious. Our subconscious is notoriously difficult to access, and as such, these beliefs are often hard-wired and difficult to change.
Traumatic events such as a sugar daddy scam can cause direct changes in our subconscious beliefs. These beliefs and behaviors continue to play out negatively in our lives long after the traumatic event has transpired.
NLP helps by allowing people to communicate, with the help of their coach, directly with their subconscious. By doing this, they can overcome traumatic behavior responses.
Sugar daddy scams can cause trauma in addition to financial loss and a violation of trust. Learning how to overcome this trauma can be done with holistic therapies like somato-emotional repatterning and NLP. These therapies uproot the trauma at its core and help clients move forward.